Make the best of a bad bargain, surprise — get rid of social dilemma(一)

In general, in a social situation was wrong, wrong, should just admit that, conscientiously correct. But in some special occasions, as according to handle will make themselves in an extremely awkward position or cause irreparable loss, may wish to consider whether to a wrong, a surprise move, so as to get rid of the dilemma. Life in many of their cases, and, interestingly, this “whitewash” instead of being seen as “evil”. Instead, it is good size up the situation, expedient machine becomes a talent show.
Make the best of a bad bargain, surprise -- get rid of social dilemma
Once, Zhang Zuolin attended the celebrity. During the meeting, several Japanese ronin suddenly claimed, it was Zhang Dashuai, please enjoy the impromptu painting. This is Zhang Mingzhi deliberately, but in a public occasion, he readily agreed, difficult to refuse such kindness, commanded the ink on. Saw him smartly plating to the table, on the rice paper on the paved with a stroke of the pen wrote a “virtual” word, and then proudly inscribed: “Zhang zuolin black hands.” India Zhu India, brush and pen enormously proud of one’s success. The Japanese ronin be all at sea feel at a loss, being at a loss what to do. His secretary found an astute flawed, “hand ink” hand written text into how the “black hand”? He hurriedly close to Zhang Zuolin’s ear and whispered: “you write” ink “below the earth”, the hand ink has become: “black hand”.” Zhang Yiqiao, could not help but hesitated, how to put the “ink” written “black”. If public corrections, not to spoil sb.’s enthusiasm. He deliberately scolded meishao move, A stratagem comes to mind. Secretary replied. I don’t know the word ‘ink’ below has a “soil”, because this is the Japanese things, it is never to yield an inch of ground. Carter, full of applause, the Japanese ronin which realized the smell, feel more and more boring, but bitterly.
Make the best of a bad bargain, surprise -- get rid of social dilemma
You see, the original is a large pen monkey, a reflection of national spirit and the art of struggle. This. Decayed for magical effect does not depend on a clever use of make the best of a bad situation?? so, how to make the best of a bad situation can be a surprise move?? to make the best of a bad situation, especially pay attention to improvise, since there is no fixed program to speak of, but the basic track of the mental operation vaguely discernible. It includes at least the three links, or must be meet three conditions:
Identified really necessary, but found that the own mistakes, don’t regret in vain time consuming, and to quickly weigh stakes, only in admitted on the spot that false negative effect is actually his unbearable, and refused to admit and as it is worse to get things to consider to choose a wrong decision. Otherwise, or recognition, correct as well, because the honesty will be exchanged for understanding, and even respect. In the cases of Zhang Zuolin on the public if not corrected, the thought is quick to spoil sb.’s enthusiasm, after weighing the decision made. Situation is obvious of Japanese ronin is deliberately making things difficult, wait to see a joke, if admit mistakes, in the middle of the ill intentioned the monologues, wait for lost his own face, the consequences of the imposing, long ambition of others, of course, unacceptable. So, make the best of a bad bargain becomes logical choice.

How to cope with the ridicule(二)

If there are people too abrupt words hurt you, or embarrass you, you should be reserved to, or take a dumb, beat around the Bush, shuffle or take yielded, transfer the “line of sight”, give an irrelevant answer, talk about some completely and questioning “Wind Horse and cattle and” thing, the indirect and euphemistic refute the opponent will have strange effects.
How to cope with the ridicule
For example, you have just been promoted to a leadership position, this play antics Elm Road: all of the sudden, you a meteoric rise, escalator straight on the bar! You do not have to stick, can laugh away: “is that so? You just like this’ quasi entertainment can be flat even if to be neither humble nor pushy. In contrast, if you care too much, say a lot of truth, but it is too serious, but the opposite. If a person with half-genuine and half-sham tone asked: “you got a big bonus, the rich?” If you answer, “do you want it?” Let’s do a piece of work. With just your spirit Yang language, people ask, is not good.
Sometimes it may encounter a thorny problem puzzled. In this regard, answer in terms of humor, humorous, often will be saved. Change the embarrassment. “No doubt in the mountains multiply and streams double back”, to “There is a way out.”, which disappeared in the embarrassing situation and.
How to cope with the ridicule
As the saying goes: ‘heart of harm should not be the heart of the people do not be: trained adaptable language skills such as students will “Shaolin” and only use it to build the dam of defense, cut can not take the initiative to attack and insulting. And the defence should pay attention to courtesy, whether it is with “soft” approach, implicit refute, or “hard” approach, the top of the exact words back. All right, there is a section. One time, I saw an elderly man in to buy food when said: “you this dish is too old Ya the vegetable seller immediately retorted:” which is your old ah!. This approach is the lack of mouth are not going to follow. If there is a thought in a bitter have the gift of the gab, the language of “war”, provoking everywhere that will hate.

How to cope with the ridicule(一)

In social situations, sometimes encounter other people, no meaning qiangbai you, ridicule, sarcasm, ridicule you, what should you do? I think we should do “Huxin Fu” in language, build defense fishing dike. Have the ability of people to adjust to changing circumstances, mobilize their wisdom, active. To make an awkward situation. “Soldiers will be blocked. You can use different thin “, one way to cope with different choices.
If the judge come with evil intent. Is malicious, you can deliberately provocative, “an eye for an eye. “Rational, favorable, answer blows with blows, a day, that polite and clever opponents. Give tit for tat, the original “. Top back.

Once, an American reporter talking with Premier Zhou Enlai, see on the table there is a American Parker pen, with a few sarcastic tone asked: “excuse me, your excellency prime minister, you dignified Chinese people, why use our pen?” Premier Zhou Enlai listened to his implication, solemn and witty replied.; lift the pen words long. This is a Korean friend of the war to resist US aggression and plunder, as a gift presented to my. I have no work to do. Rejection. Friend said, leave a mark. I think it is meaningful to take the country this pen. The reporter to face embarrassment, you should also speak out to 30.
How to cope with the ridicule
Former British Prime Minister Wilson during the campaign speech just talked about half, there was a sudden trouble intentionally loudly interrupt him: “shit! Rubbish!” : obviously, he means Wilson, “don’t talk nonsense.””. Wilson did not bother the intention, just responded with a tolerant smile, to appease said: “the gentleman. I’ll talk about you made the mess in the the.” Troublemaker who suddenly be rendered speechless.
If there are people rushing you put on a fierce look, verbally abusive to scold a way: ‘you the duplicity and specialized divisions of my Yin shaped; want to step on someone’s shoulder to climb up, no way! If you don’t mind me, might as well be furious, doubt against tomorrow: “oh! Is it true? I’d like to wash the ear Gong xin.” Then induce reviler continued, until the other person can not find the words, you again. Wow gold Shoubing “. In this case, you gentle and polite way Xiaoying attackers, apparently better than the fury and rage. If the other menacing, domineering, come forward to accuse you insult, and you want to make sure you truth in hand, responded with a look of contempt and coldness of smile, let him enjoy vent enough and disregarded. Sometimes silence is better than thousands and thousands of words.

The clever use of language

Ambiguous, leave adequate leeway

Ambiguous, leave adequate leeway
In some cases, especially in social and diplomatic occasions, for some difficult to answer without escaping the problem, you can vague, ambiguous, obscure vague answers such as “may”, “I also don’t understand,” and so on, in order to get rid of the other side of the rectifying knitting, for his own purposes there is room. Sometimes it can only be expressed in body language, in order to adapt and avoid a clear statement. This way most people can master, there is not much to say.
Can not be said, pretend to be ignorant of sth.
In some intrigue of the occasion, if you disadvantaged and at the end of one’s wits, nothing can said that simply pretend to be deaf and dumb, otherwise you will fall into trap each other, more passive.
1945 a month, the three country song, Su talks in Potsdam. A rest, the United States President Barack Truman intends to disclose to Stalin: the United States has developed a powerful bomb. Which implies that the United States has an atomic bomb. At this time, Churchill is also the eyes of Stalin’s eyes, observation of the reaction. And Stalin seemed to have heard nothing, and had not shown the slightest. Actually, he could be heard clearly, of course, also to listen to a Truman overtones, heart anxious. After the meeting, he told Molotov: “accelerate our development progress.” A personal dilemma, can only pretend to be ignorant of sth., secretly energetically. It might be a inspiration to Churchill. June 1953, Churchill to attend the summit of the United States and France in bermuda. In order to avoid some problems he will excuse; advanced in age, pretending not to hear, not to answer. And on his interest in the issue, and the United States to the two party bargaining, not deaf. He is deaf, and sometimes the normal practice to make participants was headache. President Eisenhower had humorously said: “there’s really no way, pretend to be become the speaker of the new defense weapon is the.”
Adjust to changing circumstances, open up a fresh outlook
The clever use of language
A speaker to the audience, said: “man, thumb (gestures), women, like the pinky – – – -” the sudden, the audience in an uproar, female audience strongly opposed his parables he did not speak anymore. What should I do? “Ladies,” he added, “the woman, the man’s thumb is strong and powerful, and the little finger is slender, smart, lovely, I do not know which lady would like to upside down?” A word to quell the female audience’s outrage, a smile into each other’s eyes, feel a heartfelt admiration.
Soviet Central Television anchorwoman member Walian Kim, Leon Tyeva in the 1950s and 1960s red pole at that time, enjoy a high reputation, this and she in television broadcasting resourceful, spectacular inseparable. Once she hosted a children’s show, she did not speak, a ready to the audience to see the goose called. Can this be done? She improvised a way: a little friend, do you hear? Today we invited guests has been impatient, then program start! “The audience convulsed with laughter, only don’t smile is sitting in front of the camera Leon Tyeva.
With clever repartee, open up a fresh outlook. The most fundamental is the master speaking action art, starting from the actual situation.