(1) trust in the tone of the child to get the trust of the adult, especially the parents, so to speak to the child to show full trust.
If the child wants to learn to play badminton, you use the confidence of the tone, said: “I believe you as long as you work hard, careful study, will be able to learn to play.” This virtually gave the child a self-confidence, and let him understand that only adhere to be successful. If using a sarcastic tone: “you are so enthusiastic about three minutes to play ah?” Will bring harm to the child’s self-esteem, so he has no confidence in their ability to produce.
(2) respect for the tone of voice from the age of two or three, the child’s self consciousness began to sprout, with the growth of age this self-awareness will become increasingly strong. Children have some of their own ideas, that the children know their own strength and ability.
When he put forward his own views and requirements, do not think that he does not listen to you, with you to do, and the brutal opposition to him. If you require children to learn English, he wanted to with small partners play for a while, you can’t lose his temper: “bigger and more obedient, do not learn, you grow up is able to do.” Doing this will only make children more disgusted with learning. Should be respectful tone: “that you play for a while, however, comes to an end, you can be sure to learn english.” Children are more willing to accept.
(3) to discuss the tone of each child is a self-esteem. To the child to do something, you can discuss the tone, let him understand that he is equal to you, you respect his. For example, you want the child to the ground litter toys to tidy up a look, you can say: “the stars, toys, lost, and more bad habits, ah, you and your mother together to pick up the toys, OK?” Do not use the command tone: “how do you make, toys, litter, hurry to clean up!” Otherwise, the child to listen to you blame, the heart will produce resentment, even by your request to do, is not happy.
(4) the tone of appreciation
Every child has the advantage, have the performance desire, found the child’s advantages and appreciation, will make him more willing to show. Children draw a picture, perhaps the painting is not very good, but the enthusiasm of the children to paint and carefully is the most valuable. When the child holding the painting to show you, can not cope with a few lightly: “painted in general, good practice.” This will let the children lose enthusiasm and confidence in painting. It should be appreciated in the tone of his works: “I can not think of such a good baby, continue to work hard, will draw better. The child’s performance to be satisfied, with a happy emotional experience, the painting will be more interested in.
(5) it is impossible to encourage the child to do without fault. When children do something wrong, do not blindly criticize the blame, but should help him in his mistakes sum up lessons, accumulate experience, encourage him to succeed again.
If the child for the first time to help mother duanfan bowl dropped to smash the, you can’t blame him: “even a bowl all end instability, stupid.” This will hit the child to try new things with confidence and courage. The tone should be encouraged: “you accidentally broke the bowl, never mind, after the first try with your fingers go hot not hot end.” In this way, not only to teach him the way of practice, but also gave the child the confidence to try again.