Make the best of a bad bargain, surprise — get rid of social dilemma(一)

In general, in a social situation was wrong, wrong, should just admit that, conscientiously correct. But in some special occasions, as according to handle will make themselves in an extremely awkward position or cause irreparable loss, may wish to consider whether to a wrong, a surprise move, so as to get rid of the dilemma. Life in many of their cases, and, interestingly, this “whitewash” instead of being seen as “evil”. Instead, it is good size up the situation, expedient machine becomes a talent show.
Make the best of a bad bargain, surprise -- get rid of social dilemma
Once, Zhang Zuolin attended the celebrity. During the meeting, several Japanese ronin suddenly claimed, it was Zhang Dashuai, please enjoy the impromptu painting. This is Zhang Mingzhi deliberately, but in a public occasion, he readily agreed, difficult to refuse such kindness, commanded the ink on. Saw him smartly plating to the table, on the rice paper on the paved with a stroke of the pen wrote a “virtual” word, and then proudly inscribed: “Zhang zuolin black hands.” India Zhu India, brush and pen enormously proud of one’s success. The Japanese ronin be all at sea feel at a loss, being at a loss what to do. His secretary found an astute flawed, “hand ink” hand written text into how the “black hand”? He hurriedly close to Zhang Zuolin’s ear and whispered: “you write” ink “below the earth”, the hand ink has become: “black hand”.” Zhang Yiqiao, could not help but hesitated, how to put the “ink” written “black”. If public corrections, not to spoil sb.’s enthusiasm. He deliberately scolded meishao move, A stratagem comes to mind. Secretary replied. I don’t know the word ‘ink’ below has a “soil”, because this is the Japanese things, it is never to yield an inch of ground. Carter, full of applause, the Japanese ronin which realized the smell, feel more and more boring, but bitterly.
Make the best of a bad bargain, surprise -- get rid of social dilemma
You see, the original is a large pen monkey, a reflection of national spirit and the art of struggle. This. Decayed for magical effect does not depend on a clever use of make the best of a bad situation?? so, how to make the best of a bad situation can be a surprise move?? to make the best of a bad situation, especially pay attention to improvise, since there is no fixed program to speak of, but the basic track of the mental operation vaguely discernible. It includes at least the three links, or must be meet three conditions:
Identified really necessary, but found that the own mistakes, don’t regret in vain time consuming, and to quickly weigh stakes, only in admitted on the spot that false negative effect is actually his unbearable, and refused to admit and as it is worse to get things to consider to choose a wrong decision. Otherwise, or recognition, correct as well, because the honesty will be exchanged for understanding, and even respect. In the cases of Zhang Zuolin on the public if not corrected, the thought is quick to spoil sb.’s enthusiasm, after weighing the decision made. Situation is obvious of Japanese ronin is deliberately making things difficult, wait to see a joke, if admit mistakes, in the middle of the ill intentioned the monologues, wait for lost his own face, the consequences of the imposing, long ambition of others, of course, unacceptable. So, make the best of a bad bargain becomes logical choice.

Reasonable discernment,Call a spade a spade

Reasonable discernment,Call a spade a spade
Reasonable discernment,Call a spade a spade

The famous Russian writer Herzen once made friends should be invited to a concert. However, the concert performances soon, he would celebrate the trouble with both hands Wu ears dozing off. The hostess saw him so strange, pushed him, and asked:
“Sir, you don’t like music?”
He shook his head: “this low-level coltish music what is good?”
“Ah?” The hostess exclaimed, “what do you say? Here are all popular music. 1”
“Is it a good thing to be popular?”
The hostess asked: “how can you be so popular?”
Herzen smiled: “so, the popular cold is also a noble?” Then he left home.
Herzen rebuttal evidence, concise and powerful, because he thrust

clear and reductio ad absurdum this logic weapons, to discern the affair, some problems can call a spade a spade hit the nail on the head, do not be avoided, not vague.
If your colleagues or friends blame you in public, and the situation is not true, so that you are embarrassed. You can be in a calm mood to say: “if we talk this problem? I’m asking you to make sure you know the situation. If you don’t pay attention to respect the facts, I did after very difficult to trust you. If your friends and relatives blame you for no reason, you will clearly say: “you have let me embarrassed, but you always tell me this is for what reason? Where did I get you?”
Of course, if you do something wrong, what job is not intentional, it is sincere. This is common sense, call a spade a spade. So as to solve the problem, get rid of the dilemma.

When is not easy to speak , use of euphemism
When is not easy to speak , use of euphemism

When is not easy to speak , use of euphemism
“Sishitongtang”, the second day wandering Qi Jia Ruifeng fooling around, often to the house for money sister Mei yun. But the whole family life is very difficult, the rhyme Mei can give. Do not give it, afraid to get family Ruifeng petulancy. Yun Mei is really in a dilemma. This day, Ruifeng to want money, Yun Mei had said: “the second, I discovery to you when to vote?” When the vote, that have no money, only when something’s keeping, suggesting; Qi home rule, I’m afraid of losing face. So, if there is a second nature, also won’t let Yun Mei trouble.
When you are faced with this difficult, reserved words, euphemism, it is necessary to achieve the purpose, but also conciliatory, to prevent the intensification of contradictions, sometimes hidden motives.
Some people always come up with the show, in order to be famous at the expense of buying opportunity. He said to a friend, who is the person in charge of a game, “man, I sponsor 300 yuan, let me be a judge how?” The man who knows he is not eligible to be a judge, but also not good: let you be a judge, and that the judges have prestige? So, he said to the friend’s voice replied: “you have no place to throw the money? Why do you join in the fun?” So, not only to the improper requirements, and not hurt each other’s feelings, but also make them feel may be best for him.

When you are in a difficult and a dilemma situation

When you are in a difficult and a dilemma situation
When we interact with people, we often encounter some difficult questions and embarrassing situation. At this time, the want to talk like keep or in speaking should pay attention to what Nick Ning when you are in after the problem before and embarrassed, the general principle is to discern the affair, speak properly; the outspoken and blunt; the clever answer the, clever answer; the vague vague I the super de detached – – – – – – in short, from a practical point of view, depends on the situation, touch on any lock with a corresponding key to open. But there is one point to pay particular attention: when people deliberately making things difficult for or humiliate you and make you feel hurt when, you must not to be absorbed in gas used their temper, don’t bite the bullet hardtop. The sample will intensify the conflict, escalation, bukekaijiao, two on all injury. You can’t be tongue tied, or blushed, Xing like will make the other feel that you are weak and can be bullied. It is very likely that he will become the real tease you. The only way is: calm, emotional control, using the language of art, especially with quick witted humor sense to deal with; of course, the other makes you feel embarrassed and distress is not out of malice, many normal exchanges will make people facing challenges and threats. Not to be reduced to what kind of situation, the first one is to talk must be appropriate.

When you are in a difficult and a dilemma situation
When you are in a difficult and a dilemma situation

Speak properly, avoid mistakes
TV film “talk about Baosteel” in such a question and answer:
The program hosts the world: during the war of resistance against Japan, the Japanese imperialist aggression against china. The people of our country have great hatred for the Japanese invaders, and now we have to build Baosteel, the introduction of Japan’s machinery, equipment and technology. Some viewers have such doubts: this will not hurt our national feelings?
Said; this is totally different from the. The Japanese imperialist aggression against China, so that our people suffered a great disaster, the account should be considered in the head of the Japanese militarism, with the Japanese people and business people, of course, can not say that the only direct relationship, no direct relationship. Now we are building Baosteel, which is doing business with the Japanese businessman.
The answer of good intention that “this is totally different in nature from” clearly, but how can pull in “cannot say completely unrelated”, and “indirect”? People ask you, “the indirect relationship” is not the relationship? This cannot make out a good case, inevitable because of passive in a dilemma. Go to this step, it will only admit corrections, lessons learned, any skills to be of no avail. So to speak, to grasp the purpose and logic, to be just perfect, so as to avoid the loss of speech, a handle, resulting in a cocoon around oneself.